How To Overcome His Fear Of Physical Intimacy

Men are generally deemed as strong individuals yet as opposed to what women believe, men also have their own "weak points." Men are afraid to let down their guard and show people who they really are. Since prehistoric times, men have been putting lots of effort in maintaining their macho image which leads some men into having a fear of physical intimacy, since physical intimacy might lead emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy, to vulnerability. This kind of fear of intimacy in men is unexpected, because intimacy's definition for a man is typically physical intimacy, but the fear of vulnerability can be strong.

Most women cannot bear physical intimacy without emotional intimacy. The feeling of closeness is important for women because they believe that the secret to a lasting relationship is being able to talk openly about their feelings, dreams, frustrations, and a lot more, to the other party. Men find themselves scared to get intimate with their "prospects," because they will be faced with numerous responsibilities, and one of the scariest of those responsibilities is having to talk about their feelings and to be vulnerable. As John Gray, author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" puts it, "when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer."

Heartbreaks are really painful, and men's heartbreaks are no exception to this occurrence. In the past, they might have been cheated or hurt so as a result, they put up barriers which prevent them from loving or being loved. If a man already knows the pain that comes with broken relationships, he can have difficulty trusting and will be hesitant to be intimate with another person again.

One more reason why men develop a fear of physical intimacy is the possibility that when they enter a committed relationship, their freedom will be hampered. No matter how mature men are, they still want to do some things on their own such as watching adrenalin-punched football games with their friends. Men know of women who are needy and clingy, and men do not want to deal with them.

However, men's fear of physical intimacy is not a permanent state. There are ways to break down their barriers. If he's reeling from a broken heart, show that you are a different person. Don't be impatient though because he might avoid you for looking like a desperate freak. Pressuring him to forget his fear and disappointment will only make him shun you from his life. While waiting, don't forget to do things that will make him feel special.

If a man fears that you will invade his personal space, let him know that you're quite able to take care of yourself. Men are attracted to women who are self-confident, so let him see that you can be emotionally independent. This way, he will see that you won't bug him if you're crying over a touching episode of your favorite drama special.

The best treatment to stop his fear of physical intimacy from haunting him is to remove it little by little. Find ways to entice him to show you his soft and vulnerable spots. In the end, he will be thankful for someone like you who did not easily give up.

About the Author

To learn more about intimacy's meaning for men , visit the site TipsWhatMenWant.com . Learn as well about other aspects of men's commitment phobia. Thomas Christopher is a Colorado public speaker and trainer.

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